I was doing a good job of turning off my anxieties. I wasn’t listening to the little voice that considered the possible perilous pitfalls of every single situation. “Most likely it won’t happen. It could happen, it probably has happened, sometime in history…” Malcolm fell in some nettles and came up crying, holding his head. I thought he’d hit it on a rock. But he hadn’t! We thought we heard a chain saw ahead of us on a secluded path, which conjured all sorts of nervousness. But we hadn’t heard one! There was nobody there! I was anxious about going to work each day because there was a festival in town and David would be busy with the store and my boys might wander off… Probably not, but you never know! But they were fine! And our Clio was off leash, leaping up and down brambly hills, merrily greeting every dog she met, and so happy and joyful it was impossible to feel too apprehensive. And then we saw some dogs up in the distance. They were off leash, too, and getting along with each other. Clio raced towards them, around a small bend in the path. And then I heard cries of pain, and saw a little commotion. Clio came running back to us with a gaping wound in her side. It will turn out to be fine like everything else, I thought! If I pretend it’s not so bad it will go away! But it didn’t, and the poor girl needed stitches, and now she’s all dopey and crying and she has to wear what Malcolm calls the “cone of shame.” She was at the vet all morning! And I was so nervous and separation anxiety-y that David suggested I chew up some of her toys, since it seems to work for her when we’re gone and she’s missing us. And then I picked her up and she seemed subdued and reproachful, she didn’t fall all over herself with glad-to-see-me-ness, like she usually does. Oh what a dark and grey-day mood I found myself in! Because it’s a rainy day, and I kept thinking that this is what I get for letting my guard down! This is what I get for letting myself not be anxious every single second of every day! Because obviously my constant worrying is what keeps everybody safe! I make protective walls around everybody with my unceasing uneasiness! I talked to the vet and told them I think Clio’s mad at me, and they laughed at me and said, “she’s on drugs!” Ohhhhhhh. And she’s got stitches but she’s fine. She’s cuddled with Malcolm and Isaac on the couch and they’re all fine. And now I just have a little voice in my head saying, “Get over yourself, honey, you don’t have that kind of power!” And yes, it’s a gloomy day, but the new life everywhere is bursting with vivid greenness against all the grey. And the next time the sun comes out our whole world will wake up! Our whole world will shine!
This is another of my honey and tamari numbers. The boys loved it! It’s very simple and quick to make. We ate it with rice, but you could eat it as a side dish or with long noodles, or however you like.
Here’s Sleepy John Estes with Ain’t Gonna Worry No More. I’ve got to get a kazoo and learn to play this to chase away the worry demons.
1 T olive oil
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 t red pepper flakes
1 t black sesame seeds
1 t black mustard seeds
2 cups broccoli florets
1 cups cauliflower florets
1 T tamari
1 T honey
1/2 cup toasted chopped cashews.
Basmati rice, to serve
Warm the olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. Add the garlic, red pepper flakes, mustard seeds and sesame seeds. Stir and fry until the garlic starts to brown and the seeds start to pop.
Add the cauliflower and stir and fry until it starts to soften and brown, about five minutes. Add the tamari and honey and then the broccoli. Add about half a cup of water. Cover and cook until the broccoli is bright and tender.
Serve over basmati rice, topped with the cashews.
Sorry about Clio’s Booboo. Young people heal quickly especially in Springtime.
FYI: I heard about someone in town, who was kind enough to adopt a dog that has issues. That dog attacked a little dog, but the little dog is ok. Another kind and brave man came along to the rescue.
It is ok to worry sometimes. It is how creatures protect other creatures.
My dog jumped over the wall and really worried a goose couple. One was really honking and ready to clobber my pup with a strong bill, but he did not. The goose’s restraint was kind. I noticed tiny yellow fluffy babies under the geese and leaped over the wall, grabbed my pup and apologized to Mr. And Mrs.
It is interesting, Athough the geese were worried, I believe they had been sizing us up long enough to know that my dogs were not major threats and I was their ally. Maybe.
Observation and worrying within reason. That’s what parents are good at.